If you know someone who has been a victim of rape, you may notice that the person seems to act differently; withdrawn, afraid or unsure. They may feel angry or upset.
What Can You Do?
- Listen. A good counselor or friend knows how to listen and not speak. Concentrate your energy and attention on their feelings, not your own.
- Try not to judge. "If I had been in your situation, I would have..." "Why did you go in there?"
- Avoid "fixing" your friend. Help your friend make a list of options and let her/him decide what to do (even if you don't agree with it).
- Don't rush the healing process just to make yourself more comfortable. People need time to heal. Be patient.
- Encourage your friend to seek help from a counselor where the services are professional, confidential and free (i.e.: Counseling and Mental Health Center, San Antonio Rape Crisis Center). As a loved one of a rape survivor, you may also desire counseling and advice.
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