How to Help A Victim

If you know someone who has been a victim of rape, you may notice that the person seems to act differently; withdrawn, afraid or unsure. They may feel angry or upset.

What Can You Do?

  • Listen. A good counselor or friend knows how to listen and not speak. Concentrate your energy and attention on their feelings, not your own. 
  • Try not to judge. "If I had been in your situation, I would have..." "Why did you go in there?" 
  • Avoid "fixing" your friend. Help your friend make a list of options and let her/him decide what to do (even if you don't agree with it). 
  • Don't rush the healing process just to make yourself more comfortable. People need time to heal. Be patient. 
  • Encourage your friend to seek help from a counselor where the services are professional, confidential and free (i.e.: Counseling and Mental Health Center, San Antonio Rape Crisis Center). As a loved one of a rape survivor, you may also desire counseling and advice.

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