If you know someone who has been a victim of rape, you may notice that the person seems to act differently; withdrawn, afraid or unsure. They may feel angry or upset.
What Can You Do?
Listen. A good counselor or friend knows how to listen and not speak. Concentrate your energy and attention on their feelings, not your own.
Try not to judge. "If I had been in your situation, I would have..." "Why did you go in there?"
Avoid "fixing" your friend. Help your friend make a list of options and let her/him decide what to do (even if you don't agree with it).
Don't rush the healing process just to make yourself more comfortable. People need time to heal. Be patient.
Encourage your friend to seek help from a counselor where the services are professional, confidential and free (i.e.: Counseling and Mental Health Center, San Antonio Rape Crisis Center). As a loved one of a rape survivor, you may also desire counseling and advice.